Former Iowa First Lady and current head of the
Iowa Initiative Christie Vilsack published
a blog entry today about her recent visit to
Mary's Center, a service organization in Washington, D.C. that primarily caters to the Latina community.
Mary's Center, which does amazingly good works in the beltway, was also the site of a
roundtable discussion with U.S. First Lady Michelle Obama on February 10. I read the transcript of that discussion shortly after the event and, as always, I was impressed with Michelle Obama. More importantly, however, I was impressed with the questions those participating in the event asked.
It seems that so often when young people, especially women, are confronted with an opportunity to really speak to leaders who can make a difference, that some sort of a brain melt occurs. We sputter, we reconsider our stance and, perhaps in an effort not to rock the boat or not to make our guest feel uncomfortable, we opt for "nicer" questions. I think what we need to understand is that effective leaders need and want to hear the nitty-gritty of how our lives are being impacted by current policy. When we sugarcoat our experiences -- even when we do so with the best of intentions -- it defeats the purpose of the gathering.
Although a smile and a quick handshake might make us feel warm and fuzzy for a day or two, we will eventually realize the lost opportunity. And opportunities to advance our views about life and to better our communities happen daily.
For instance, several years ago I was involved in a discussion about Cedar Rapids'
Waypoint Services and other organizations that work with women and families in need. While I don't remember all the details of the discussions, I do remember a few key things that were presented as items that could possibly help women. To this day, and often in ways that surprise even me, I continue a slow and steady advocacy for those things.
For instance, this past Monday evening I attended a "Senior Year and Beyond" series of workshops at the local high school with my daughter. At the end of the evening, a career fair of sorts had been assembled with local trades people, merchants and school representatives staffing informational booths. One of the most visited booths by the students was the one by Wells Fargo, because the group had a table-top wheel that could be spun for prizes. Once the students ventured to the booth in order to spin the wheel, the representatives could then ask the students if they had an questions about a career in banking or finance.
When my daughter had no career questions and there were no other students waiting in line to speak to the representatives, I took advantage of the opportunity to ask the Wells Fargo employees if they volunteered time at the local women's shelters.
"I was at a meeting once where it was expressed that the women in shelters -- many of them trying to better their situations -- could benefit from learning how to use checking and savings accounts," I said. "You know, things like teaching them how to balance their checkbooks."
The representatives brightened and were very receptive. They told me that they often work with young people teaching the same types of things, but hadn't considered there might be a need for that in women's organizations.
Yes, I'll admit that I took a risk -- albeit a very tiny one -- to begin this conversation with four bank representatives I did not know and had never met. Someone could have said something nasty about women in shelters. Someone could have simply laughed at me for making a boneheaded suggestion. The representatives could have politely dismissed me with mumblings about how they were present for the career fair and couldn't be bothered with anything else. But while those situations might have been uncomfortable or embarrassing, they wouldn't have been the end of life as I know it.
Do I know that the bank representatives will follow through with my suggestion? Of course not, but I did plant a seed.
When I suggested to a friend upon her retirement that there were likely a lot of women just starting out who could use her career wardrobe, she looked at me as if I was insane. Months later I found out that not only did she end up donating a lot of clothing to her local affiliate of
Dress for Success, but she began to volunteer with the organization as well. Donating the clothing made her feel good about herself, but mentoring women in need gave her purpose.
It's good to listen to experts. It's good to listen to political leaders. It's even better when we get past the point of listening to a monologue and begin an actual discussion.